Archive for July, 2008

Ini ialah postingku yang ke 301
banyaknya ku menulis!
ni kerja ke makan gaji rabun tulis blog
tapi kusuka
macam ada yang tak kena, kalau tak apdet blog sampai seminggu lebih
perasaannya sama mcm kalau dh lama tak gi window shopping

Tak ada yang menarik selain zikry dalam hidup saya
petang hari lepas balik kerja
saya akan menyusukan zikry sehingga kenyang
barulah mula mengepam susu
ternganga mulut iki tengok saya ngepam susu
(takde gambar,sbb susah nak ambil gambar guna handphone)
lepas saya buat tak tahu
dia beralih utk bereksperimen dengan pam saya

mula mula dia main tarik tube
lepas tgk muka sy berubah jadi merah jambu sebab bengang dengan dia
(kalau tube tercabut,mk tk dapatlah saya ngepam!)

dia beralih kepada pam saya yang berbunyi zzzz..zzzz..zzzz
belek lampu, belek sana,pusing pam

macam biasa, mesti masuk mulut dulu
nak rasa apa rasa breastpump
ulang kali saya kata “this not food…human doesn’t eat this”
dia buat tak tau…
dia buat mcm tak ada apa apa yang berlaku

macam tak ada siapa cakap apa apa

sudah mengepam, saya keluarkan flash card nya
ajar bunyi lion “roarrrrr”
bunyi elephant “uuuuuuuukkkk”
bunyi rhinoceros “moooooooo”
bunyi parrot “im a parrot..im a parrot”
bunyi butterfly “fif fif fif fif”
bunyi fish “blup blup blup blup”

sampai ke satu sayur….rape?
rape?
sayur rape?

zikry tak puas hati saya lambat sangat terberhenti kat sayur rape
rape?
rape?

 

 For each of the following questions, pick the best answer-in other words, the statement that describes your child most of the time.

 

1. My baby

A. rarely cries

B. cries only when he’s hungry, tired, or overstimulated

C. cries for no apparent reason

D. cries very loudly, and if I don’t attend to it, he quickly gets into a

rage cry

E. cries a lot of the time

 

2. When it’s time for him to go to sleep, my baby

A. lies peacefully in his crib and drifts off to sleep

B. generally falls asleep easily within twenty minutes

C. fusses a bit and seems to be drifting off, but then he keeps waking up

D. is very restless and often needs to be swaddled or held

E. cries a lot and seems to resent being put down

 

3. When she wakes up in the morning, my baby

A. rarely cries-he plays in his crib until I come in

B. coos and looks around

C. needs immediate attention or he starts crying

D. screams

E. whimpers

 

4. My baby smiles

A. at everything and everybody

B. when prompted

C. when prompted but sometimes starts to cry within minutes of smiling

D. a lot and is also very vocal, tending to make very loud baby noises

E. only under the right circumstances

 

5. When I take my baby on any kind of outing, he

A. is extremely portable

B. is okay as long as where I take him isn’t too busy or unfamiliar

C. fusses a great deal

D. is very demanding of my attention

E. doesn’t like to be handled a lot

 

6. When confronted by a friendly stranger cooing at him, my baby

A. immediately smiles

B. takes a moment and then usually smiles fairly quickly

C. is likely to cry at first, unless the stranger can win him over

D. gets very excited

E. hardly ever smiles

 

7. When there’s a loud noise, like a dog barking or a slamming door, my baby;

A. is never rattled

B. notices it but isn’t bothered

C. flinches visibly and often starts to cry

D. gets loud himself

E. starts to cry

 

8. When I first gave my baby a bath

A. she took to the water like a duck

B. she was a little surprised at the sensation, but liked it almost

immediately

C. she was very sensitive-she shook a little and seemed afraid

D. she was wild-flailing about and splashing

E. she hated it and cried

 

9. My baby’s body language is typically

A. relaxed and alert almost always

B. relaxed most of the time

C. tense and very reactive to external stimuli

D. Jerky-his arms and legs are often flailing all over the place

E. rigid-arms and legs are often fairly stiff

 

10. My baby makes loud, aggressive noises

A. once in a while

B. only when she’s playing and is highly stimulated

C. hardly ever

D. often

E. when she’s angry

 

11. When I change my baby’s nappy, bathe him, or dress him

A. he always takes it in stride

B. he is okay if I do it slowly and let him know what I’m doing

C. is often cranky, as if he can’t stand being naked

D. wriggles a lot and tries to pull everything off the changing table

E. he hates it-dressing is always a battle

 

12. If I suddenly bring my baby into bright light, like sunlight or fluorescent light, he

A. takes it in stride

B. can sometimes act startled

C. blinks excessively or tries to turn her head away from the light

D. becomes over stimulated

E. acts annoyed

 

13a. If you bottle-feed: When I feed my baby, he

A. always sucks properly, pays attention, and usually eats within twenty minutes

B. is a little erratic during growth spurts but generally a good eater

C. is very squirmy and takes a long time to finish the bottle

D. grabs at the bottle aggressively and tends to ‘overeat

E. is often cranky and feedings take a long time

 

13b. If you breastfeed: When I feed my baby, he

A. latches on immediately-it was a snap right from day one

B. took a day or two to latch on properly, but now we do fine

C. always wants to suckle but goes on and off the breast, as if he’s forgotten how to nurse

D. eats well as long as I hold him the way he wants me to (kadang2 nak baring berpeluk, kdg2 masa dia meniarap.boleh imejin?)

E. gets very annoyed and restless, as if I don’t have enough milk for him

 

14. The comment that best describes the communication between my baby and me is

A. he always lets me know exactly what she needs

B. most of the time her cues are easy to read

C. he confuses me; sometimes she even cries at me

D. he asserts her likes and dislikes very clearly and often loudly

E. he usually gets my attention with loud, angry crying

 

15. When we go to a family gathering and lots of people want to hold him, my baby

A. is very adaptable

B. is somewhat selective about whom he’ll go to

C. cries easily if too many people hold him

D. might cry or even try to lurch out of someone’s arms if he doesn’t feel

comfortable

E. refuses anyone’s arms except Mummy’s or Daddy’s

 

16. When we come home from any kind of outing, my baby

A. settles in easily and immediately

B. takes a few minutes to get acclimatised

C. tends to be very fussy

D. is often overstimulated and hard to calm down

E. acts angry and miserable

 

17. My baby

A. can amuse herself for long periods by staring at anything, even the slats in the crib

B. can play on his own for around fifteen minutes

C. finds it hard to be amused in unfamiliar surroundings

D. needs a lot of stimulation to be amused

E. is not easily amused by anything

 

18. The most noticeable thing about my baby is how

A. incredibly well-behaved and easy he is

B. much he is developing precisely on schedule-just like the books said he would

C. sensitive he is to everything

D. aggressive he is

E. grouchy he can be

 

19. My baby seems to

A. feel utterly safe in his own bed (crib)

B. prefer his bed most of the time

C. feel insecure in his bed

D. act feisty, like his bed is a prison

E. resent being put down into his bed

 

 

20. A comment that best describes my baby is that

A. you hardly know there’s a baby in the house-he’s good as gold

B. he’s easy to handle, easy to predict

C. he’s a very delicate little thing

D. I fear when he begins crawling, he’s going to get into everything

E. he’s an “old soul”-he acts like he’s been here before

 

To score the self-test above, write A, B, C, D, and E on a piece of paper and next to each one, count how many times you’ve used each letter, which denotes a correspond­ing type.

 

~~ Your Baby’s Type ~~

 

When you tally up your letters, chances are that you’ll have picked predominantly one or two. As you read the descriptions below, re­member that we’re talking about a way of being in the world here, not an occasional mood or a type of behaviour associated with a difficulty, such as colic, or a particular developmental milestone, like teething. You’ll probably recognise your baby in the following thumbnail sketches, or perhaps she’s a bit like this, a bit like that. Read all five descriptions. I’ve exemplified each profile with a baby I’ve met who fits it almost exactly.

 

A.The Angel baby..

As you might expect, this is the kind of baby every first-time-pregnant woman imagines herself to have: good as gold. Pauline is such a baby-mellow, eternally smiling, and consistently undemanding. Her cues are easy to read. She’s not bothered by new surroundings, and she is extremely portable-in fact, you can take her anywhere. She feeds, plays, and sleeps easily, and usually doesn’t cry when she wakes up. You’ll find Pauline babbling in her crib most mornings, talking to a stuffed animal or just amus­ing herself by staring at a stripe on the wall. An Angel baby often can calm herself down, but if she gets a little overtired, perhaps be­cause her cues were misread, all you have to do is snuggle her and tell her, “I can see that you’re overtired.” Then, turn on a lullaby, make the room nice and dim and quiet, and she will put herself to sleep.

 

B.The Textbook baby..

This is our predictable baby, and as such, he’s fairly easy to handle. Oliver does everything on cue, so there are few surprises with him. He reaches all the milestones right on schedule-sleeps through the night by three months, rolls over by five, sits up by six. He’ll have growth spurts like clockwork­periods during which his appetite will suddenly increase because he’s putting on extra body weight or making a developmental leap. Even as young as a week, he can play on his own for short periods­fifteen minutes or so-and he’ll coo a lot and look around. And he smiles when someone smiles at him. Though Oliver has normal cranky periods, just like the books describe, he’s easy to calm. It’s not hard to get him to sleep, either.

 

C.The Touchy baby..

For an ultrasensitive baby like Michael, the world is an endless array of sensory challenges. He flinches at the sound of a motorcycle revving outside his window, the TV blaring, a dog barking in the house next door. He blinks or turns his head away from bright light. He sometimes cries for no apparent reason, even at his mother.At those moments, he’s shouting (in his baby lan­guage), “I’ve had enough-I need some peace and quiet.” He often gets fussy after a number of people have held him, or after outings. He’ll play on his own for a few minutes, but he needs the reassur­ance that someone he knows well-Mum, Dad, a nanny-is close by. Because this type of baby likes to suck a lot, Mum may misread his cues and think he’s hungry when he’d do just as well on a dummy. He also nurses erratically, sometimes acting as though he’s forgotten how. At nap time and at night, Michael often has dif­ficulty falling asleep. Touchy babies like him easily get off schedule, because their systems are so fragile. An extra-long nap, a skipped meal, an unexpected visitor, a trip, a change in formula-any of these things can throw Michael for a loop. To calm the Touchy baby, you have to re-create the womb. Swaddle him tightly, snuggle him into your shoulder, whisper a rhythmic sh . . . sh . . . sh sound (like the splashing of fluid in the womb) close to his ear, and pat his back gently, mimicking a heartbeat. (This, by the way, will calm most babies, but it works especially well with a Touchy baby.) When you have a Touchy baby, the quicker you learn his cues and his cries, the simpler life is. These babies love structure and predictability­.No hidden surprises, thank you.

 

D.The Spirited baby…

This is a baby who seems to emerge from the womb knowing what she likes and doesn’t like, and she won’t hesi­tate to let you know it. Babies like Karen are very vocal and even seem aggressive at times. She often screams for Mum or Dad when she gets up in the morning. She hates lying in her own pee or poo, and she says “Change me” by boisterously vocalising her discom­fort. Indeed, she babbles a lot and loudly. Her body language tends to be a bit jerky. Karen often needs swaddling to get to sleep, be­cause her flailing arms and legs keep her up and overstimulated. If she starts crying and the cycle is not interrupted, it’s like a point of no return, and her crying leads to more crying until she’s reached a fever pitch of rage. A spirited baby is likely to grab for her bottle at an early age. She’ll also notice other babies before they notice her, and as soon as she’s old enough to develop a good, firm grasp, she’ll grab their toys as well.

 

E.The Grumpy baby.

I have a theory that babies like Gavin have been here before-they’re old souls, as we call them-and they’re not all that happy to be back. I may be wrong, of course, but whatever the reason, I assure you this type of baby is downright mardy, as we say in Yorkshire-he’s mad at the world and lets you know it. (My coauthor informs me that the Yiddish equivalent is farbissiner.) Gavin whimpers every morning, doesn’t smile much during the day, and fusses his way to sleep every night. His mum has a lot of trouble keeping baby-sitters, because they tend to take this little guy’s bad humour personally. He hated baths at first, and every time anyone tried to change or dress him, he was fidgety and irri­table. His mother had tried to breastfeed him, but she had a slow letdown (the pace of milk working its way down and through the nipple), and Gavin was impatient. Even though she switched him to formula, feeding is still difficult because of his cranky disposi­tion. To calm a Grumpy baby, it usually takes a patient mum or dad, because these babies get very angry and their cries are particu­larly loud and long. The sh . . . sh . . . sh has to be louder than the cry. They hate to be swaddled, and they certainly let you know it. If a Grumpy baby has reached a major meltdown, instead of shush­ing say, “It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay,” in a rhythm while gently swaying front to back.

 

Saya sampai ofis, terkujat tengok door stopper neh
shomel gila lah rasa nak bawa balik
manalah Miss L neh jumpa benda benda shomel neh
Teruja staff dia nak beli 2-3 di rumah

Ingat tak entry 3 June mengenai expressed breast milk saya?
Update pada 8 July 2008 =)
penuh sudah peti ais saya
bangun2 pagi masa tengah kelam kabut nak bersiap ke tempat kerja
sempat saya luangkan beberapa minit
termenung lihat stok ebm saya
ianya membuatkan saya happy =) (tengok stok pun happy?)
happy bila mengenangkan susah payah penat jerihnya mengumpulkan stok
siang dan malam
(bunyi cam org membanting tulang di sawah padi kan?)

haritu la Nizi tanya saya
mengenai perasaan anak kedua saya yang belumpun lahir
katanya, mungkinkah kisah anak kedua saya akan sebanyak kisah Ammar Zikry?
mungkinkah gambar anak kedua akan ditempek hehari di blog?
mungkinkah?
kerana beliau adalah anak kedua
dan beliau kecil hati dengan saya. apakah?
oh tidak, beliau bukan berkecil hati dengan saya
beliau cuma melontarkan pandangan tentang blog saya
saya tidak jawab apa apa pada soalannya itew..sigh

Ammar Zikry yang masam di pagi hari?
Dia suka buat mulutnya begitu
adakah itu tanda sedang serius?
*nampak beg saya di tepi car seatnya itu
ada stok baju2 utk dipos
dan ada limau utk breakfast
saya kelam kabut dengan diri sendiri, anak, suami, rumah, makanan etc etc

hujung minggu lepas saya duduk di rumah bermain dengan zikry
main gelak2, cuit cuit, tonggeng2
perangai dan akal zikry dah macam org besar
suka melepek…suka melompat…suka gelak kentut dengan kuat
dia dah mula marah
bila tak dpt apa yang dimahukan
contohnya mahukan remote control TV, tp tk terjangkau dek jangkauan tangannya
atau mahukan majalah fotografi ayahnya
atau mahukan burger di tangan mommy
dia marah bila toys di tangannya di ambil sesuka hati oleh ayah

rambut iki jarang disikat
selalunya betul2kan guna jari jemari ibu saja
hari sabtu kami berjalan ke seri kembangan dengan aunti lia dan uncle niza
muka zikry nampak tension sbb ayahnya pegangnya kuat2 semasa kami sedang makan
kalau tidak dipegang, zikry akan tolong jatuhkan pinggan, cawan ke lantai

lagi gambar di kedai makan
banyak sangat dah gambar zikry neh
biarlah ibu interframe sekali sekala kan?
tengok mulut zikry, muncung lagi
tandanya dia sedang serius
fokus pada sesuatu…

dia sedang busy mengerjakan purse kecil pink mommy
kerobek sana sini
cungkil apa yang boleh

“ah,susah sangat pakai tangan, pakai mulutlah terus”

semua benda masuk mulut zikry sekarang ni
tangan mommy, tangan uncle niza & aunti lia, purse mommy, his toys
semalam dpt emel dari abby di langkawi
katanya toys iskandar khilfi dibahagikan kepada 2 jenis
90% yang dah tak cukup sifat, dan hanya 10% sahaja masih kekal dibentuk asal

abby, zikry pun dah begitu
tengok, apa yang dikerjakannya semalam…
siapa nak tengok gambar power ranger sebelum

Susah sket nak tgk power ranges tu sbb zikry sama sama merah.
mujur masa balik kg haritu, atuknya belikan power ranger biru pula
sekurang2nya power rangers biru masih selamat…kan anak?
*positif ibumu neh..

sekarang kan lebih jelas, siapa lebih power? power iki atau power rangers?

 

dah kurang mood saya nak berblog
sejak ketiadaan kamera gegambar
nak beli kamera, kena keluarkan duik
rasa sayang hey nak keluarkan duik
tak keluarkan duik, tak dptlah kamera laptop, jam, perfume, kan?
haruskah ku bersabar…mungkin sehingga dpt hadiah cabutan bertuah?

susah nak ambil gambar zikry guna handphone
kerana dia tak berhenti bergerak
asyik melompat2 berenjut2, sangat aktif
sampai waktu tidur pun masih nak main main

haritu saya ke Toy ‘r’ Us mencari safety gate berbentuk heksagon utk Zikry
oleh kerana harganya yg mahal (RM600 huk huk)
saya tangguhkan dulu sehingga ke waktu dan mood poket yang sesuai

sempat singgah ambil puppet Po, Kungfu Panda neh
inila mainan Zikry saban malam
kungfu hiyah hiyah dengan Po

bila saya habis idea nak berkungfu dengan Po
saya main bachak dengan iki
saya tak rasa zikry akan confuse beza saya dengan Po
sebab mata kami sama, lingkaran gelap keliling bawah mata

ini gambar zikry di kampung
selepas dia bengang saya paksanya tidur
ayahnya peluk ajak tgk TV
sampai ternganga dia tengok berita , ugly betty, national geographic, MTV etc etc

kan saya kata, susah nak ambil gambarnya
dia bergerak berpusing2

ini gambar semalam
masa balik dari kerja dan saya sibuk loading barang dari dalam kereta
saya biarkan dia dengan bil readers digest saya

“hoh mommy?”

“nyam nyam, goreng pun sodap kertas neh”

“mommy, betulke mommy tak marah neh?”

“hah, sibukje mommy amek gambar, tak marah la tuh”

“jeling lagi sekali”

“dah penat…nak susu…”

hasilnya?

Nota Iki ku : Takyah Lewat lagila bayar bil tuh..